Shifting your energy can help you attract the right relationship. Learn how self-love, setting intentions, and raising your vibration can manifest the right partner in your life. Explore practical tips like EFT tapping, meditation, and gratitude to align with your true self before a date.
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Recently, I came across an interesting TikTok video. A woman was talking about how important it is, when you’re single and looking to manifest and attract the right relationship, to take the power away from your future potential partner and shift the energy towards yourself. And honestly, it just made so much sense.
Think about it: how many times have you gone on a date thinking, I hope he likes me, I hope he finds me attractive, I hope this goes well? It’s so easy to focus on the other person and how they’re perceiving us. It’s a very human thing to do. But here’s what happens energetically when you approach it this way—you immediately place them above you on a pedestal, like they’re the ones assessing and evaluating you. And that doesn’t set the best foundation for a healthy, balanced relationship.
Shifting the Focus to Yourself
What this woman in the video suggested—and something I absolutely agree with—is that it’s far more empowering to shift the focus back to yourself when you want to attract the right relationship. Rather than worrying about what they think of you, think about how you feel. How do you want to feel in a relationship? What do you love about yourself? What are you truly deserving of?
Before you go on a date, affirm your own worth. Use positive affirmations to remind yourself of everything you bring to the table. When you focus on raising your own frequency—on loving yourself, feeling deserving, and standing in your self-worth—you’ll naturally attract a partner who matches that energy.
Why Energy Matters in Relationships
When you shift your energy toward yourself, you’re operating from a place of high self-worth and confidence. But when you’re too focused on how the other person sees you, you automatically lower your vibration to match theirs—whether or not they’re on the same energetic level you want to be at. And that’s not what you want in a relationship, right?
Instead, focus on your own frequency. Feel good about yourself, love yourself, and embody that energy. When you do, you’re not only protecting your energy, but you’re also creating space for a partner who will truly appreciate and love you for who you are—without compromising your self-worth.
A Conversation That Sparked a Shift
This whole idea really resonated with me, especially after a conversation I had with a friend recently. She told me about how this very shift in focus transformed her dating life. She stopped worrying about whether the person she was dating would like her and started thinking about how she felt, what she wanted, and whether they were truly a good fit for her. And it changed everything.
That conversation, combined with the TikTok video, inspired me to write this blog because I think so many of us need to hear this. So, next time you’re getting ready for a date, instead of asking, Will they like me?, ask yourself, How do I feel about myself? and What do I truly deserve in a relationship?
How to Raise Your Frequency Before a Date
If you’re wondering how to raise your frequency before a date to attract the right relationship, there are a few techniques I personally love that can help you feel grounded, confident, and in alignment with your highest self:
- EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique): This is an excellent way to release any lingering anxiety or negative energy. You can combine tapping with positive affirmations to really align yourself with the energy you want to bring into the date.
- Meditation: There are so many wonderful guided meditations out there specifically for manifesting love or finding your true partner. Meditation is a great way to center yourself and clear your mind before meeting someone new.
- Grounding Exercises: Whether it’s walking barefoot in nature, doing some deep breathing, or visualizing roots growing from your feet into the earth, grounding exercises can help you stay present and connected to your true self.
- Essential Oils: Using essential oils like lavender, rose, or frankincense can be a great way to stimulate your senses and raise your vibration. Plus, they smell amazing and can make you feel more calm and centered.
- Crystals: Rose quartz is my go-to when it comes to self-love and relationships. You can wear it as jewelry or even carry it in your pocket on a date to keep that loving energy close to you.
- Gratitude Practice: Write a love letter to yourself. Seriously. Take a few moments to jot down everything you love about yourself and your life. Gratitude is a powerful way to lift your energy and attract more of what you want.
My Own Experience with This Energy Shift
This idea of shifting your energy toward yourself also reminds me of a funny story. Right before I met my husband Riny 10 years ago, I was kind of done with men. I had gone on a few dates, none of which were great, and I was just feeling really over it. I was deep into my “feminism era” (still a proud feminist, by the way!), and I was like, you know what, I don’t need a man to make me feel special.
So, one week before I met Riny, I went to a jewelry store and bought myself a beautiful ring. It looked like the sun, and I told myself that it was a reminder to never lose my light in a relationship again. I didn’t need a man to buy me a ring—I could do that for myself! That ring symbolized my self-love and respect for myself.
And guess what? A week later, I met my husband. It’s funny how things work out when you shift your energy and focus on loving yourself. This shows how powerful shifting your energy towards yourself is to attract the right relationship.
Good Luck With Attracting the Right Relationship
So, the next time you’re preparing for a date, remember this: It’s not about them—it’s about you. Shift your energy toward yourself, affirm your worth, and step into that date feeling like the amazing, deserving person you are. When you do, you’ll attract someone who is truly on the same frequency as you, someone who appreciates and loves you for exactly who you are.
And if you’re looking for more ways to raise your vibration, try out some of the techniques I mentioned. EFT, meditation, grounding, essential oils, crystals, and gratitude—they’re all powerful tools that can help you align with your highest self and attract the love you deserve.
Have you tried shifting your energy before a date? I’d love to hear about your experiences—share in the comments below! 💖
In this article, we collaborated with AI, meaning that the input and stories are real, but the blog itself has been created with support from AI.
