Comments for HiSensitives

Comment on How To Live Fearlessly: 5 Ways To Be Your “True Self” by Thomas ladd

Thomas ladd — Fri, 09 Aug 2024 05:16:24 +0000

I have lived a privileged life. My parents were very fortunate. My father was a very successful businessman. My mother was a compassionate and supportive person. I never had any fears. Although I was smaller than my pears, I was always the young child who would make others fear my aggressive nature based on support of those who were vulnerable. I had no fear. I was also not parented with a lot of oversight. My parents were older than average. I was a mistake by birth-but that encouraged me.
Skip to adulthood.
My father failed to make his children and wife a priority. He gave away the rights of his fortune.
Although I was never considered the most intelligent (#5/6) I was forced to become the person who would carry on his family’s financial obligations, and left with paying for his insurance obligations.
Fast forward
My wife divorced me and attempted to destroy my reputation, successfully.
I accepted my obligations to take care of my father’s family, my children etc.
I have had to dig deep into my soul, my own abilities which were ridiculed by my father s business associates. Negative energy surrounding me, I met my wife, I started to feel my siblings trust in me, and I regained the very same confidence and fearlessness I had known as a youth.
I believe in my higher power. I believe that there is beauty in all of our lives, but most importantly I became and have lived fearlessly

Comment on Common Mistakes Many Highly Sensitive People Make by Shelena

Shelena — Sun, 14 Jul 2024 13:48:07 +0000

One mistake I have made over and over again is giving people the benefit of the doubt and relaxing around them too soon.

Comment on Friendship for Life: How to Develop Friendships that Last by Crissy

Crissy — Thu, 29 Feb 2024 18:07:43 +0000

I’ve been struggling with the concept of friendships for a long time. I seem to attract folks who find me easy to dispose of. I am currently working through some things that may be causing this. For example, a few years ago, I decided that gossiping didn’t feel good and dropped that. But it seems that I am disrespectful in other ways (I care a lot and can “go from 0 to 100” fast).

I love some of the points you’ve made here and look forward to coming back to this article on a day off work to further reflect on what I may be doing to drive folks away. Life hasn’t been kind these past few years when it comes to friendships and despite wanting to recluse myself, I keep stumbling across articles like this one.

Thank you for taking the time to write it.

Comment on What Are The Best Areas To Live As A Highly Sensitive Person? by Running on Empty

Running on Empty — Wed, 20 Dec 2023 08:05:05 +0000

I disagree.
The refrain “small town, big hell” is true. Small can be suffocating, especially if single woman, and highly gifted. Small remote town can mean lacking in sophistication, expecting HSP to comply with antiquated norms.

Comment on 4 Steps for Making Your Health a Priority by Angela Bordio

Angela Bordio — Fri, 31 Mar 2023 11:40:49 +0000

The bad habits destroy everything in a row: the brain, liver, kidneys, cardiovascular system, etc. It is also worth remembering that bad habits harm not only you, but also your loved ones, so you should gather all the will into a fist and start getting rid of them as as soon as possible! Thank you very much for this article!

Comment on Highly Sensitive Person and Autism: What is the Difference? by Daniel

Daniel — Tue, 07 Feb 2023 22:10:05 +0000

In reply to Alex Launius. Hi Alex, it's been a year and Nikki hasn't answered publicly. I am puzzled by this "social" question as well. But I think, reading what you described, I was able to realized, that it will in all likilyhood be ASD. Please don't forget that it is also perfectly possible for you to be both, but if I had to pick one, I'd pick and concentrate on ASD.

Comment on The 6 Types Of Empaths: Which One Are You? by George T

George T — Mon, 24 Oct 2022 20:06:14 +0000

I am a retired nurse. RN to be exact. I found the explanations for three of the above resonated with me. Intuitive, Emotion and physical. While working as a nurse, I had the “gut” feeling and found it easy to identify with my patient’s symptoms. It has only been recently that I have found that I could be an Empath. Also. The intuitive part was very handy being an emergency room/trauma nurse. (It especially was helpful as a parent on 6 children. I always knew who “did it” and who wasn’t telling the truth lol)

Comment on 5 Effective Ways To Cope With Sound Sensitivity by Robert

Robert — Sat, 22 Oct 2022 16:09:23 +0000

Thank You. As a respond to what sounds are exhausting, for me its the neighbours heat pump outside unit. I understand they didnt know what it meant for us that they bought a small unit with On/off operation of the fan, no Inverter with lower speed and which is much more silent. This cheap model forces lots of air with a lot of force and maximum speed, it goes on and off, it never stops from autumn to spring. I have had a hard time to tell them since they as an old couple will be stressed but this sound lowers my quality of living i cant hide in my home. One week ago I told them and talked about the possibility of a sound barrier. By law they may not have such a loud thing but I think of their best i said we could talk. Now one week have gone by and nothing new the sound is harder to bare now when im having a cold.

Comment on Highly Sensitive Person and Autism: What is the Difference? by She

She — Wed, 31 Aug 2022 11:01:28 +0000

In reply to Marcy. Hi Marcy! I very much relate to you on this! You aren’t alone! I’ve heard from others who also relate. I’m not formally diagnosed with autism but highly likely. Had a couple people such as a counsellor mention HSP and family mentioned (at the time Asperger’s). I’ve been encouraged to get a proper evaluation to see (as I’m taking university courses and may need accommodations/struggle with). I think the idea of being stressed in groups is the overstimulation, so much to take into consideration. We probably have been conditioned to overthink our relationship to people based on reactions. Have you heard of ‘masking’? Starting to learn about it but basically there’s these social norms we’re around that aren’t natural to us, so it’s as if we have to act, with can be anxiety inducing and exhausting..hence rather avoided. But when in a safe environment where you feel can be yourself! There’s not that pressure…Now, I’m not an expert on this and I’m not saying you are one or the other, but I have heard that in autism it can be one extreme or the other. Example some over stare (I knew someone who used to do that, which was very uncomfortable) and yes, there can be over sharing. I relate to you on that. I’d suggest reading into it more, by looking up specifics such as masking with autism and social interactions. I hope that helps! Feel free to ask clarification or share any comments/feedback :)

Comment on Highly Sensitive Person and Autism: What is the Difference? by Marcy

Marcy — Fri, 27 May 2022 02:38:00 +0000

Hi Nikki, thank you so much for this article!!! It has helped more than you may ever realize! I have seen/considered myself an HSP for the past several years, however the more research that I’ve done lately it seems like to me I could possibly fit in the autism category. My question is especially when it comes to social situations and engagements, I love people and a lot of times I thrive with people. As a child though, I was considered shy and reserved and did not seem to fit in/have many friends. I have been diagnosed with PTSD and Avoidance disorder (AVPD) but again the more I research and learn the more I wonder if these too may fit into autism. Since being out of school and changes in my life, I have seemed to become more of an extravert, and again, when I feel safe,love being with people ~a.lot of times this seems to bring me to life-. When I don’t feel safe though, when the AVPD comes up, it’s like I completely shut down and can’t get away soon enough. For many years I have absolutely hated social situations including prom, wedding receptions, church parties, etc. So I feel like I’m at two completely opposite ends of the scale on this.
I appreciate any thoughts you might have and again, thank you for your article.